Be sure to start from the beginning:
Part 1: The beginning
Part 2: Meeting the birth mother


After my arrival everyone came to visit and I began to get settled in. Eating well, sleeping 12 hours at night, I was very content.

In 1992 the rules for adoption were a little different to what they are now. Even though mine was a closed adoption it didn’t mean all ties were cut once I was taken from my birth mother. For the first 8 months my Mom had to take photos of me which a social worker would collect and pass on to my birth mother. My Mom didn’t get to choose what photos to give, the social worker would just take whichever ones she wanted. If at anytime in those 8 months J decided she changed her mind and wanted her baby back she had that right. My Mom would cry to my Nan & my Dad ”How could she not take her back? She’s beautiful”, She says now that if it had come to that she probably would have run away with me. At that point, I was her baby, we were a family already, even if the state didn’t see it that way.

Fast forward 8 months to December. My day in court. Β All papers were signed, i’s dotted and t’s crossed. ”She’s ours” Mom cried down the phone to my Nan. We made the journey back to Waterford, our first as an ”official family”.

Waiting in the hallway when we got home was a card for me. ”Welcome home, Ellen”. To this day that part still make my Mom well up. It was final, they couldn’t take her baby away now.

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27 comments on “My day in court | My Adoption Story”

  1. I was adopted in England in the 80’s. After time in the orphanage and then living with adoptive parents I think I was about 7 by the time “My day in court came round” remember it like it was yesterday.

  2. Seriously beautiful!! I’m equally loving and hating these posts. Only because I know that I’ll read them and the rawness and beautiful writing will make me cry every time. Can’t wait for the next one.

    • It’s so weird because I write them with no strong emotion only what I feel my Mom felt – to be it’s just a story because I was so young when it all happened

  3. I’ve loved reading your adoption story. This is why adoption is so amazing, the birth mother is amazing for giving their child the chance of a better life and the adoptive parents for providing that better life x

  4. Thank you so much for sharing. This is so beautiful. My husband and I would like to adopt so it’s wonderful to read about such a positive experience.

  5. It must be very difficult to give up a child, but how wonderful for your mom and dad and extended family to have you in their lives.

    • Somethings are worth waiting for πŸ˜‰ Haha.. Yes it would be almost cruel to put people through that type of worry but I suppose they thought it was best at the time?

  6. Loving these story updates; sure I say that about each one I read!I totally didn’t know that if she changed her mind she was allowed too that is crazy!! Thanks for linking up and hope to see you again tomorrow #MummyMonday x

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