Everyday there seems to be another celebrity under the ‘size spotlight’. From shaming pregnant women who have swollen ankles to those who have lost some weight in recent months, it seems that passing comments on the shape and size of people is the new ‘norm’.

Today I seem to be facing body shaming on every platform I visit. It started with a radio station turning a conversation about Cheryl V-F’s divorce into a conversation about her current weight and image. Yes, it is true that Cheryl has recently gone through a tough time in her life and perhaps she has lost weight but does that mean that society has the right to pass their judgement on her?

Then again on Facebook under a post about the Golden Globes the following argument ensued…
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#2#3I typed out my reply but didn’t press send. I chose not to get involved in a Facebook feud where my point would get dissolved in peoples views and emotions, so I decided to use my platform to share my views.

Here is what I typed…
”Paula, while I see your point, it is not the individual women who cause these body image issues. It is the media, brands and other platforms who have created the idea that being a size 0 is the average or normal body size. It is those who have women and young girls trying to reach an almost unachievable goal thus leading to them being unhappy with their appearance. That does not mean that being a size 0 is wrong, in the same way it is not wrong to be a size 20, once each individual is happy and healthy in their own skin. Body shaming of any sort needs to stop – what makes it ok to say ‘she needs to eat a burger’ but not ‘she has eaten too many burgers’?

My point – instead of tearing down someone for being skinny or fat empower the individuals in your life to be comfortable in their own skin. It is not the responsibility of any skinny celebrity for the insecurities of a teenage girl, it is the platforms that support the unhealthy, highly edited images. It is the fact that people now feel like these photoshopped images are how real life men and women look – which is of course not true. But, by tearing down and body shaming skinny or fat celebrities you only give one more skinny or overweight girl at home, who also reads your opinion, another comment that she feels is directed at her. So while your words fall on deaf celebrity ears, there are many ears a lot closer to home who might just hear how ‘she is so fat’ or ‘she needs to eat a good dinner’.

This photo appeared on my Facebook timeline a while ago and it is one of the most powerful things I have seen in relation to body shaming.

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When we limit what is allowed to be called beautiful, we also limit who is allowed to feel confident, empowered, important, sexy, brave and proud.

9 comments on “Whose to blame for body shaming?”

  1. It’s so wrong people putting others down about their weight – thin or overweight – I do have role models and people who I would like to look but I wouldn’t go to extremes to try and look like them. although I am not comfortable in my own body I am trying to do something about it. I did loose 3 and a half stone but unfortuently I gained 2 and a half but after I give birth I am aiming to loose another 3-4 stone. It’s a shame people have to be so mean about peoples weight.

  2. This is all true, Ellen. The people who make comments about whether someone is eating too much or too little are buying into the idea that our female bodies are constantly up for judgement from all of society. They’re only slightly to blame, seeing as they are just buying into what they see everywhere too.

    We need to change this. I don’t buy most women’s mags or even read any online sites where there is criticism of women’s weight. It’s much nicer to live without it!

  3. It’s sad that people body shame in todays world. We have enough pressure as it is and yes we should be able to celebrate the way we look. I worry about my child when she is older and so im doing my best to teach her to be healthy. Angela

  4. Wow… I had so much to say and now that picture has said it all, I think the media play a huge roll in how we see ourselves, celebrities being labelled as ‘piling on the pounds’ and then suddenly transforming themselves via a miracle diet also don’t help x

  5. WOW…..that photograph is so powerful. It makes me so sad to think of the damage and impact our generation is having on young girls and their self-worth, their self-confidence and their bodies. xx

  6. This is such a beautiful and well written post. It saddens me how some people treat others these days. The picture at the end made me cringe but really made the point. Thank you for sharing your voice and challenging the status quo!

  7. I abhor body shaming. This article really makes sense; I do think the media play a huge part, however I think it’s in our nature as well. You never see a magazine or newspaper saying “eat a burger, Cheryl’, that’s non-media people.

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