Earlier today an article popped up on my Facebook feed from the Daily Mail about a woman who gave back her adopted child. After reading the post I was shocked at what I had just read. As you may have seen from my Adoption Series I am adopted, my Mom said she would be told regularly ”what a great thing she had done” by taking me in, at which point she corrected them, she hadn’t give me a chance she had begged and pleaded for the chance. My entire life growing up she would say that your mother gives birth to you but your Mom is the one who cares for you when you’re sick and tucks you in at night. Some women , like my Mom, are destined for motherhood, the good, the bad and the ugly of it all.
Don’t get me wrong I understand being a single parent is hard, let alone a single parent to a child needing special care but would you turn your back on your biological child if he or she had a disability? If you did, would you be allowed to adopt another in 6 months? Parenting isn’t a pic and mix sweet stand, you don’t pick and choose what does and doesn’t suit your lifestyle. I, and I am sure most mothers, would not change a single thing about my child including any future medical issues he may have. That doesn’t make me super woman, it just makes me a Mom.
‘Sometimes it just doesn’t work out and parents have no choice but to return their children, whether they are babies or teenagers,’ Claire said.
That little boy isn’t a dress that doesn’t suit or a new job that hasn’t worked out. He is a little boy who could only call Mummy. A little boy who didn’t chose to become ‘too stressful’. A little boy who needed someone. A little boy who was put back into the system through no fault of is own.
In my opinion, Claire has chosen to ”give back” her baby which unfortunately is her right but therefore I don’t think she should have the right to adopt another child, where would it end? After 2? 4?
This story really makes me wonder if the children’s best interests are always at heart in these cases. I strongly believe that when handled in the right way adoption is the best gift a child can get but for a child to constantly pass hands because ”it didn’t work out” blackens the entire thing.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you agree with the decision to let Claire adopt again?